THE POWER OF FAMILIES

THE BIBLE TELLS US THAT WE WILL CARRY THE SINS OF OUR FATHERS. (REMEMBER, SIN ACTUALLY MEANS MISSING THE MARK OR SEPARATION FROM THE ALIGNMENT WITH GOD.)

MARK 4:22 SAYS THAT - WHATEVER IS HIDDEN AWAY WILL BE BROUGHT OUT INTO THE OPEN AND WHATEVER IS COVERED UP WILL BE UNCOVERED.

WHAT INFORMATION CAN WE DRAW FROM THESE STATEMENTS IF WE LOOK AT IT SLIGHTLY DIFFERENT THAN WHAT WE ARE ACCUSTOMED TO.

TODAY I HAVE A GREAT RESPECT FOR THE POWER OF THE FAMILY AND HOW IT IMPACTS OUR LIVES. EACH OF US COMES WITH A PREDISPOSITION INTO THIS WORLD, AND THE JOURNEY TO FIND OUT WHAT MAKES US THE PERSON WE ARE, AND WHY WE DO THE THINGS WE DO, CAN EASILY TAKE A LIFE TIME.

THERE IS NOTHING HARDER THAN TO LOOK AT OURSELVES. BUT, I WANT TO TRY AND GIVE A FEW IDEAS OF HOW TO LOOK AT OURSELVES AND ATTEMPT TO EXAMINE SOME PATTERNS THAT HAVE AFFECTED OUR LIVES OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN.

LET'S EXAMINE THE RELATIONSHIPS WE HAVE AND HAVE HAD. I DON'T CARE IF THEY ARE MALE/FEMALE, BEST FRIENDS, MOTHER/DAUGHTER, SIBLING/SIBLINGS. THE COMPOSITIONS OF THE RELATIONSHIP ARE UNIMPORTANT.

IT'S THAT EACH OF US MUST HAVE A DEEP RESPECT FOR THE RELATIONSHIP "BEING THE TEACHER" ….ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE THE TEACHER. THE RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN DESIGNED BY GOD TO BE THE TOOL TO LOOK AT OURSELVES.

OFTEN WE WANT TO SHOOT THE MESSENGER RATHER THAN LOOK AT THE MESSAGE THE RELATIONSHIP HAS LEFT US WITH. WE ARE SO FOCUSED ON THE OTHER PERSON (WHO BY THE WAY IS THE MESSENGER), THAT WE DON'T LOOK AT OURSELVES AND WHY WE INVOLVED OURSELVES IN THE RELATIONSHIP IN THE FIRST PLACE.

WE ARE TOO BUSY BEING THE VICTIM. AND, IN MANY CASES, THAT ALLOWS US TO REPEAT THE SAME PATTERN OVER AGAIN, EITHER WITHIN THE SAME RELATIONSHIP, OR IN ANOTHER ONE, SUCH AS BEING INVOLVED WITH ALCOHOLICS, MENTAL AND PHYSICAL ABUSERS, SEXUAL ABUSE, ETC.

WE NEED TO LOOK AT THIS AND LEARN FROM IT RATHER THAN REPEAT IT. AND, THE ONLY WAY THAT CAN HAPPEN IS BY NOT ALLOWING US TO THINK OF OURSELVES AS VICTIMS, BECAUSE VICTIMS NEVER HEAL. PLEASE DON'T THINK THAT ONCE YOU HAVE THIS ALL FIGURED OUT THAT IT SIMPLY GOES AWAY AND LIFE IS FINE AND DANDY. NOT SO.

ONCE YOU FIGURE YOU'RE PATTERNED, NOW YOU HAVE A CHOICE, DO I WANT TO INVOLVE MYSELF IN THIS ACTIVITY AGAIN. IF YOU THINK THAT NOW BECAUSE YOU HAVE IT ALL FIGURED OUT, YOU COULD SAFELY ENTER THE SAME PATTERN ASSUMING THAT YOU CAN HELP THE OTHER PERSON, THINK AGAIN. JESUS NEVER SOUGHT PEOPLE TO HEAL FOR A REASON. JESUS WAITED FOR PEOPLE TO COME TO HIM.

WE ARE LOOKING TO BE LIKED AND LOVED SO BADLY THAT WE WEAR OUR HEARTS ON OUR SLEEVES.

NOW, YOU AND I WILL MAKE THE SPIRIT OF GOD PROVE ITSELF OVER AND OVER. BUT, IF SOMEONE COMES ALONG AND PAYS A LITTLE ATTENTION TO US, SOME OF US ARE SO STARVED THAT WE WILL DO ANYTHING TO BE LOVED. THEN, WE WAKE UP ONE DAY AND REALIZE OOOPS… THE FACES AND NAMES HAVE CHANGED, BUT THE DIALOGUE REMAINS THE SAME.

HOW CAN WE AVOID THIS… WELL, THE BIBLE TELLS US TO TRY THE SPIRIT… WE ARE ALWAYS TESTING GOD, AND YET AS WE FACE DISAPPOINTMENT AFTER DISAPPOINTMENT IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS, WE EXPLAIN IT AWAY, MAKE EXCUSES, OR MINIMIZE BEHAVIORS.

I SUGGEST THAT WE TRY THE SPIRIT OF THE PERSON. FIRST, BY LISTENING TO WHAT THEY SAY. IF THEY TALK BADLY ABOUT THEIR OTHER FRIENDS, THEIR MOTHER, BROTHER AND SISTER, WELL GUESS WHAT, IT WON'T TAKE LONG BEFORE THEY WON'T LIKE YOU EITHER. YOU WILL NOT BE SPECIAL, I GUARANTEE YOU. (BY THE WAY, IF YOU ARE TALKING, YOU CAN'T HEAR. WE ARE NOT DESIGNED TO DO BOTH.) SO, BE STILL AND LISTEN. WE ARE SO BUSY LETTING EVERYONE KNOW HOW WONDERFUL WE ARE THAT WE DON'T TAKE THE TIME TO KNOW SOMEONE ELSE.

WE NEED TO WATCH WHAT PEOPLE DO, IN COMPARISON TO WHAT THEY SAY. IF SOMEONE TELLS YOU THEY LIKE ANIMALS AND THEY KICK THE DOG, WELL…. SOMETHING IS WRONG. REMEMBER, JESUS WALKED HIS TALK. THAT IS WHAT MADE JESUS SO DIFFERENT FROM OTHERS.

WE TEND TO REPEAT FAMILY HISTORY. OUR SUBCONSCIOUS GOES RIGHT OUT THERE AND FINDS US SOMETHING THAT WE ARE FAMILIAR WITH. IF PAPA WAS A PHYSICAL ABUSER, WELL GUESS WHAT…. IF PAPA HAD A PROBLEM WITH DRINKING, WE WILL FIND SOMEHOW TO REPRODUCE THESE PATTERNS, EITHER BY BECOMING THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEM OR BY FINDING SOMEONE THAT HAS THE FAMILY PROBLEM.

IF THERE IS A FAMILY SECRET…WATCH OUT…WE WILL FIND A WAY TO REVEAL IT EVERY TIME. YOU SEE OUR SUBCONSCIOUS HAS NO RIGHT OR WRONG VALUE, IT JUST REGISTERS INFORMATION. WE ENERGETICALLY ATTRACT THINGS TO US THAT ARE FAMILIAR; IT'S A NATURAL WAY. THAT IS WHY WE DISCOVER THAT WE PICK PEOPLE SIMILAR TO OUR FAMILY.

NOW, WE ARE ONLY TALKING ABOUT THE TRAITS THAT OUR FAMILY HISTORY CARRIES THAT HAVE CAUSED US PAIN AND MISERY. WE ALSO HAVE VERY POSITIVE THINGS THAT WE CONTINUE TO ATTRACT AND CARRY ON FROM ONE GENERATION TO ANOTHER.

WE NEED TO BECOME FULLY AWARE OF WHO WE ARE, SO WE CAN MAKE GOOD CHOICES FOR OURSELVES AND NOT BLINDLY REPEAT HABITS AND PATTERNS THAT WE THINK WE HAVE NO CONTROL OVER. YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE. BUT, FIRST YOU MUST KNOW WHO YOU ARE…

GOD BLESS,
REV. MAHALA D. BACON